Happiness is the real success! You should not envy anyone else, except for those who are truly happier than you are! Being genuinely happy is how you tap into your brains top levels of motivation, focus, productivity, and discipline.
Not only that, but being in a happy state is incredibly healthy for your emotional and mental health. Studies have proven that our brains simply operate better and more efficiently when happy than compared to in a crappy mood or being all stressed out.
However it is easier said than done to just ‘be happy’. There are of course multiple ways to become a happier and more successful person. I have compiled 11 of the biggest methods I know to achieve this. So let’s get right into them!
1. Don’t Compare Yourself To Others
With the majority of the world connected to each other via social media, we are exposed to every kind of lifestyle there is. It becomes increasingly difficult to distinguish between truth and lies. Most people will only post their best moments on their social media’s, so that is all you will see!
Don’t get discouraged when you see an amazing Instagram profile. The people that seem the happiest on social media can be some of the most frustrated and sad people! Social media does not equal reality. Stay away from living an aesthetic life!
That being said, you also have to understand that everyone is at different stages in life. On top of that, we all have different ambitions in life. Don’t get discouraged by someone else’s success if it is not in the same thing in life you are working towards.
2. Don’t Believe Everything You Hear
It is always ill-advised to follow whatever someone else said without first thinking about it for yourself. Gossip can be a fun things, but it is always hard to find the real truth behind it. Always come to your own conclusions on any topic!
This is also a great way to determine how truthful people really are. If you keep this the ‘Don’t believe everything you hear’ tip in mind, you will be able to determine the honest folks from the liars and cheaters.
3. Treat Others How They Want To Be Treated
Being emphatic is an incredible character trait to have, and it can get you very far in life! Everyone is different, and being able to deal with people on a case by case basis will make you well liked in both your personal and professional life.
Be sensitive to the needs of others and help them out in their time of need. When you hit a rough patch in life, those same people you helped will more than likely be willing to help you out!
A great way to become a more empathic person is to continually ask yourself, how would he/she want me to handle the situation. For example, if you know your partner loves a certain kind of candy and they ran out. Next time you are at the store buy it. It is not for you, but you had the other person in mind. A perfect example of being empathic!
4. Stay Positive
Studies have shown that an optimistic attitude will yield a lot more success in life than a pessimistic outlook. Have you ever heard the phrase ‘you are what you think’? If you spend the entire day with negative thoughts in your mind, you will be on the receiving end of a lot of negativity in your life!
In order to become more positive about life, there are several things you can try and do. Firstly I would suggest to stop taking everything you do super seriously. If what we do is serious to us, we tend to get stressed about it and become nervous during important moments. Secondly, stop worrying about things that are not under you control. If something isn’t under you control, then every second you spend worrying about it is not only a waste of time, but also a waste of energy.
5. Don’t Fear Failure
Society has taught us that failure is wrong and bad. In schools all over the world kids are getting punished for making mistakes. Few people seem to realize that failure is the ladder we all have to climb in order to reach success. If we don’t make mistakes, how are we to ever fully understand what we are trying to do. Failure is the one thing in life that allows to personally figure out what works and what doesn’t! You can spend 3 days studying for an exam only to fail it. Well now you have figured out that you probably need more time to study for any future exam! Having someone tell you what works can be really beneficial, but nothing will stick as much as failing yourself!
The only real scenario where failure is bad, is if you fail to start something. However even then, the regret some time later can bring you insight in how it would have benefited you if you had started. Fearing anything in life can also be due to low confidence and self esteem levels. I recently wrote an article on 4 mental hacks to become a more confident and happy individual, you can find it here!
6. Celebrate Small Wins
I am sure that we all celebrate our big achievements. After passing exams or getting that new job, we often go out with friends to party, or reward ourselves with a nice movie night. But often times we do not take the time to celebrate our small wins. There are ways to celebrate small wins, here are just a few:
- Share your success with a good friend or family. Talking about it is a great way to give yourself the recognition you deserve
- Write them down in a journal, and read your success list every evening
- Order your favorite meal or go see a movie
Celebrating a small win can be so easy and have such rewarding benefits to boot. Celebrating them releases a feel good chemical called dopamine, helping you with your motivation. On top of that, they can also be turned into major wins over time. A series of small wins will often times add up to you achieving your lifetime goals!
7. Practice Gratitude Daily
Practicing daily gratitude has been linked to experiencing more positive emotions. Psychological research has shown that those who practice gratitude experience not only greater happiness than those who don’t, they are also less likely to be emotionally stressed out. It will give you a more optimistic outlook on life, and therefore make you a more successful individual!
There are many ways that we can incorporate gratitude into our busy days. One of my personal favorites is during setback moments. Whenever I find myself in a situation that negatively affects myself in some way, I still try and see the positives in it. For example, if I find out I have a test next week, I remind myself that even though I will likely not be able to go out with friends this weekend, that I will be learning the material better which can come in handy in the future. Always trying to see the positives in life can be a great mental health boost!
8. Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone
When you spend your time doing activities that you find “comfortable” your brain is not being pushed to really learn a new skill. If it knows what to expect, it can rest. You have zero stress and you simply cannot grow as a person. Stepping out of your comfort zone is all about taking risks and taking part in activities you have never done. It is what allows us to grow!
It allows us to become more creative for example. Learning new skills allows us to solve old problems using new methods. It helps us to think outside the box. That being said, do not push yourself too far. For example, don’t run a marathon after only a month of training, as you will simply injure yourself! I will be writing a more in-depth article on stepping out of your comfort zone in the future. So make sure you keep an eye out on my most recent posts and my archived posts page!
9. Work Towards Your Passion
It is hard to explain, but when you are working on your passion, you will be a happier person in life. You will feel this intrinsic sense of fulfillment when you are making progress in a passionate area of your life. A lot of people stress about not doing what they truly love doing. They are always asking themselves if this is the job they want to do for the next few decades of their lives. If you are working on your passion, you will never have these moments of worry and unhappiness.
On top of that, you will make your dreams become reality. Working on our childhood dreams often times rewards us with more focus and dedication to our work. It will also make you more persistent! These are all character traits that the most successful individuals have in their personalities!
10. Stop Overthinking
It is very useful to think a lot about the things going on in your life. But once you come up with a solution for your problems, you have to leave it at that. Overthinking simply doesn’t help anybody, and it can oftentimes be quite damaging to yourself!
It becomes very difficult to make decisions when you overthink something, simply because you have so many options running through your head you will end up doubting yourself. On top of that you will also miss on opportunities that could turn out to be great solutions to your problems simply because you spend so much of your time overthinking. As a result overthinking will drain your happiness!
11. Stay Focused On Your Goals
If you have set proper goals for yourself, focusing on them will lead you to a life of happiness and success. The goals you set will determine your future, and you must stay focused on them. Every week you should sit down with yourself and ask yourself if you are still chasing your dreams. If the answer is no, then you have to get back on track.
If you are feeling lost, or if you have lost interest in the goals that you have set for yourself in the past, then I can redirect you to a more detailed article here. It explains some methods you can get back on track and to recover your lost happiness in life, so make sure to check it out regardless if you’re on track or not!
There are infinitely more rules to live by in order to lead a successful and happy life, but these are some of the most important and generalizable ones. For a lot of the above mentioned rules I have written more in-depth articles, so make sure you go through the simply lifestyle website and continue your path of personal progression.